A World of Unreality

If you watch, or used to watch, Full House on Z Cafe then you'll know this particular episode that I'm gonna talk about.
Remember the episode where DJ, Steph and Michelle go to Camp Lakota along with DJ's boyfriend, Steve (I think!!). And when they get home, all they can talk about is camp, camp and CAMP. And Joey, Jesse and their dad, along with Becky are really upset that they cant stop talking about Camp. Michelle brings back a bunny rabbit that they had nursed to health at camp and Steve offers to drive her back there to set it free and DJ and Steph want to go along too. There they think they're being attacked by a mud-monster, which is actually Joey covered in mud, because it was a very stormy day. But the important part is that when they go there they realize that it wasnt the place that mattered so much because when all the kids weren't there the place just seemed a lifeless, lonely cabin! And so when they get back they realize that the elders had been upset and hurt and then everything becomes all better.
Well, I'm just trying to make a point. Sometimes people get caught up in something temporary, something thats takes place only for a few days or a maybe a couple of weeks. And when they have to get back to the real world, they have trouble letting go of what was so great, though they dont realize that anything can be made great, as long as you want it to be. Suppose you have to run a race, and you psych yourself completely, in the sense that you are totally into it and are confident of winning. Then, you're bound to do well, and even if you don't win, you still have a feeling of contentment. Cos you went in with a positive mindset. But the minute you think, "I'm SO going to come last" then 99% percent chances, you will come last. And then your just going to think, "Damn! I knew that was going to happen. I should just stop trying." But in the first case you'd think, "Okay, so I didn't get it this time, maybe I have better stamina, I'll try 800m". Do you see my point?
Okay, I'm sort of deviating from the point. I'm just saying, sometimes people live too much in the moment, they forget the things that matter most, like family, long-lasting friendship and doing well in life.
Think of this situation, you've just made a new friend, and you too get along amazingly, you have the same tastes in everything. It happened fast, a sudden friendship. No prelude. You spend all your time with that friend. Trying to get to know him better, trying to figure out more things that you have in common, because, you seem to be soul-mates. And after about a week after you've exhausted all the things in common, you start to explore the things that are different, and you realize that when it comes to things that matter, you guys are actually very different. Then you realize, that for a week you did nothing but spend time with this new friend, that in the process you've alienated the old, more constant ones. Friendships that were built over time, with arguments and disagreements and patch-ups and "Forgive me"s.
Thats what I'm talking about, getting too involved in one thing. Many people make that mistake. There's not much of a healthy balance when it comes to people. We take old friends for granted, thinking they'll be there for you no matter what. And good friends will definately always be there for you, but you've got to remember that you need to be a good friend and need to be there for him or her too. New friendships are very very important, but not at the cost of old ones. Give replationships time. It takes time to build trust and true happiness. Make a new friend an old friend. It can't be that hard... It just needs time.
And not just new friendships. Anything. If a camp is happening for a week, have fun with it. But when you get back to the real world or school, chores and life in general, it cant be good to pine for the week-long camp, cos ultimately thats definately not permanent in your life. Look at what you have and appreciate it before you forget all about what you have to get something that you see before. Remember, one bird in hand is better than two in a bush. Don't regret what has gone by, appreciate what is happening, but dont long for what is to come, cos there's no way you can tell what is to come.
I can hardly believe that people can centre their whole lives around something that has gotten over, or something that isn't real anymore. I guess thats why we have 'Devdas's in this world. Pining for what is lost. Living in a world of unreality.